The trembling of the stiff upper lip

Help.

Just help.

I am in a long term relationship with a lovely man, but it's becoming more and more evident that as he grows up, he is leaving me behind. I'm not immature but I'm not a law graduate going to law school, commuting every day, having to work a shift at the golf club each week, and needing to do law school work/see friends/have some down time and have to squeeze in a girlfriend. I understand that he needs to make something of himself and create a career but I just fear that his "we can make it" is taking advantage of three years of solidarity based on constant communication (communication which has now disappeared.) I don't know what to do or say: I can't say anything.
"I want more" will only just come with the "this is the most I can give"
"We need to talk more" will come with the response of "we already talk lots, this is the most I can do"
"I need to see you more" will result in "I can't give anymore time.
And I believe him.

So what do I do? What can I say?

Help.

Just help.

Weddings!

So as I sit here listening to a bit of Van Morrison, increasingly bored because everyone around me seems to have things to do whereas I just appear to be festering, I look up wedding cake/centerpieces/favours.
Yes. I am going to be a bridesmaid.
This is something that I am really looking forward to and something I feel I can be a part of! The bride-to-be always wants to know my opinion which feels good! :) However, looking up weddings gets you thinking...who will I end up with? Will I run off into the sunset with my current man or will things change? Will I get married or will I end up an eternal spinster? These are the questions that have had me rattled recently and I think I have an answer to them...why should I care NOW? I'm not on a biological clock, I'm not desperate for a wedding any time within the next ten years, so yes...I have resolved not to care about those questions anymore...feels liberating!! I think that every time I get worried about certain things, I more often than not need to pull myself up on them and think, why are they worrying me now? As a natural worrier, the answer is usually "because you are you" but I think as a new year's resolution (to add to a list of a thousand that I will inevitably break) is that I am going to worry less and live for the moment, to enjoy life to the full...good plan!